You can love someone and still choose to say goodbye

Unexpected Lessons I learned from a break up

I broke up with my ex boyfriend. It was only six months dating. It was not a long time but the relationship was very impressive. He’s a nice guy, very cheerful and always makes me happy.

But everythings different now. We broke up.

The broke up wasn’t ugly. But it is still heart-wreching. Now I’m trying to healing myself and accept the reality that we aren’t meant for each other. But I learned that this relationship we had inspired new thoughts about self-love and self compassion.

If you are going through the same thing, I hope these break up lessons I learned will help you to see the bright side.

Breakups doesn’t always have a reason

the worst breakup is the one that happens without reason. No Cheating, No Arguments, No Fighting, No Drama Just two individuals growing apart. We really have different future plans. One of us choose to separate because we think that this relationship didn’t work out if we force to keep being together And this is for the good. especially for us.

When the breakup happens we hugged each other and he said “if we’re meant to be it will be. We’re going to meet again in the future. Trust me, this is god’s plan. He knows what best for us” he said. I can’t stop crying. And it was really hard for me to let him go. But I just can’t do anything.

We don’t really have a reason to hate each other. But peaceful breakup still hurt.

To heal, I have to acknowledge my feelings

I’d love to eat a lot of food and watching movies to distract myself from sadness. But they’re not helping this time. The more I tried to bury my emotions, the stronger they become.

I’m used to processing emotions on my own. But I let the word slip my mouth on a phone call with my best friends. They’re checking up on me and try to cheer me up. They said “I don’t know how to help but I’m here for you if you need me” and try to make me laugh. Aahhh I love them so much

If you’re going through a tough time, know that it’s okay to ask for help, maybe to a friend or family. Vulnerability is strength.

YOU CAN LOVE SOMEONE AND STILL CHOOSE TO SAY GOODBYE

This is quote from Tara Westover, the author of educated. And I can relate.

I loved my ex so dearly, and I will continue to love him as a friend.

The hole in the heart won’t magically heal by itself. You need you fill it up with something else, and getting a new relationship is not always the best way to recover from breakup. Your passion, your family, your hobbies, your work… there are so many meaningful things that spark joy.

My breakup has taught me to love myself even more, and it grows me for sure. I learned about self acceptance. And I learned that everything is temporary. We can lose anything we had and nothing’s permanent in this world. In the end of the day teh only thing we have is ourselves.

If you are going through a breakup, maybe you can listen to musics, doing crafts, learning something new, going outside to have a great time with friends or anything. You deserved to be loved. But love doesn’t always come from the outside.

So that is my breakup lessons I learned from this heart wrenching experience. Breakups are difficult, but they can also be the best chance to know yourself better and practice self-love.

If you’re healing from breakup, be patient with the process because it’s about time. And remember that you are loved and you are not alone.